So, what do I mean by this? Let me break it down…when a woman dresses in an obvious, over-the-top, overtly sexual way, that is dressing for L.U.S.T in my opinion. In my eyes, there is a clear distinction between sexy and sleazy. For example, in style terms, sleaze = bum-flashing hot pants and thigh-high boots and sexy = black fitted top with black leather pants. Most women, I believe are naturally sexy, so leaving very little to the imagination undermines that natural power. Isn’t true sexiness mysterious and sensual? That unknown quality or element you just can’t physically see in a person.
A guy friend responded when I was talking to him the other day about this and the hot pants thing, he said “What’s wrong with that?” With a confused look on his face, in his eyes, hot pants and thigh-highs (on a fab body) are a great visual which he can be turned on by. I didn’t debate his response. I somehow knew it was futile at that moment to say that a fully-clothed woman could just look at him in a certain way and turn him on. I kept that food for thought to myself…
The other week, I watched an online documentary by Robert Winston – you know, the Professor with the Frankie goes to Hollywood/Village people tache! It was about sexual attraction and a key factor that brings men and women together is...SMELL! Yes, apparently we are more attracted to the smell of someone who has the total opposite genes to us, which in turn, would give our future children a greater chance of good health. Out there, but apparently true.
I personally, am very curvy with a double-alphabet bra size. If I went about my everyday business, however comfortable with my sexuality, with below-sea-level cleavage, pushed up and out-of-door á la Pammy or Jordan, what am I saying to the world?
A. That I have big breasts.
B. A + and I want you all to see them all day every day - up in your face! Or
C. My boobs define who I am through my style?
Those of you who know me, know that I do show cleavage at times and yes, I cannot hide them but much prefer to be selective. It’s just not stylish to do so 24/7, and the men in my life have loved that about me. Whether they respect me more who knows...One thing for sure is I respect myself more by dressing for L.O.V.E – the true love of myself. So if I wear a short dress or show cleavage I make a point to class it up - not trash it up.
Ladies, all I’m saying is there are so many other ways to get a man’s attention, and when you do ‘sex- it-up’ they appreciate it more. This albeit from my stylist point of view, that errs on the prudish side, from my female point of view?! Style isn’t about not wearing any clothes – it’s all about wearing clothes!
I dress men and women to empower and bring great visual qualities to the fore. And no, I’ve never dressed any of my male clients eg. with shirt unbuttoned to the belly button to show a buff waxed six-pack torso! (Life isn’t an Armani billboard – unfortunately?!!) I’ve never had to tone them down to be less sexual. Funny that eh?! Let’s stop trying to meet the biased standards set by them.
It’s amazing how a person’s style can bring up so many elements of the human experience, love, hate, sex, trauma, insecurities, politics, joy and pain…
My aim: to always bring forward as many positive visuals as I possibly can.
This blog has obviously been more controversial than my others. Please feel free to comment through the red link below as I would love to get your thoughts on this.
Until next time..
© Camille Adomakoh - Karma-Style